My suggestion would be to make sure you are clear on your decision before you decide to bring divorce up to your partner, and if your not sure don't tell your spouse you want a divorce but let them know how you've been feeling, you may be able to prevent a divorce. However, if you are one hundred percent positive that you want a divorce, just remember to consider your spouse's feelings when you tell him or her. (Image Source) For more information on how to tell your spouse you can visit, divorce resource and family law software. GOOD LUCK !!!
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Telling your spouse you want a divorce...
My suggestion would be to make sure you are clear on your decision before you decide to bring divorce up to your partner, and if your not sure don't tell your spouse you want a divorce but let them know how you've been feeling, you may be able to prevent a divorce. However, if you are one hundred percent positive that you want a divorce, just remember to consider your spouse's feelings when you tell him or her. (Image Source) For more information on how to tell your spouse you can visit, divorce resource and family law software. GOOD LUCK !!!
Saturday, March 14, 2009
Life After Divorce...Men vs. Women...
Men there is some hope out there, an article in the Observer states that recent research shows that divorce makes men "particularly fathers" significantly richer. According to this research (done by Professor Stephen Jenkins, a director of the Institute for Social and Economic Research and chair of the Council of the International Association for Research on Income and Wealth) "when a father separates from the mother of his children, his available income increases by around one third. Women, in contrast, suffer severe financial penalties. Regardless of whether she has children, the average woman's income falls by more than a fifth and remains low for many years". He found that, when a man leaves a childless marriage, his income immediately rises by 25%. Women, however, suffer a sharp fall in income. (Image Source)
As I have stated before divorce is not an easy thing to go through, although research studies show that women can bounce back quicker than men this is not the case for everyone. If you have gone through a divorce and feel liberated, more power to you!!! If you have gone through a divorce and are making more money than ever, more power to you!!!
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Divorce Myths...
Monday, March 2, 2009
How to Cope with Divorce...Men and Women
WOMEN! A women and divorce blog states there are three steps you can follow to help you cope with your divorce. First take care of yourself, which includes securing your finances. Second, establish a support system, seek out the aid of friends and family and if you feel they are not supportive seek out a women's support group. Last, counseling is always beneficial never harmful. Counseling can help you process your lifestyle changes. (Image from Flickr) Ezine articles says that the first hurdle that you must overcome is this deadened feeling, and to do this is to make a list of things you need to sort out. This may not help you emotionally but it will get you focused on fixing your new life.
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Preventing Divorce...Is this Possible?
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Did You Know? Video...
Did you know? is a short (4:55) video by by Karl Fisch, Scott McLeod, and Jeff Bronman, remixed that is very interesting. I believe did you know? is about the advancements of information technology. This video includes various statistics pertaining to how life is today and how technologically advanced life will be in the future. Information technology (IT), for those of you who don't know is the use of computers and software to manage information. I have been asked, do you think the video is xenophobic? Xenophobia is an unreasonable fear or hatred of foreigners or strangers or of that which is foreign or strange. Initially, when I saw this video I said to myself, no, this video is not xenophobic. However, after taking some time, watching the video again and thinking about it, this is what I believe this video is.
Did you know?, presents the idea that advancements in technology are far surpassing the human mind. With statements shown in the video like "we are currently using technologies that haven't been invented, in order to solve problems we don't even know are problems yet" and "by 2013 a super computer will be built that exceeds the computational capabilities of the human brain", suggests to me a fear of technological advancements, advancements that do not exist yet making them foreign (unfamiliar). This video is essentially saying did you know that technology will be the world as we know it, in ways that you can't even imagine. Technology is going to be so advanced that "by 2049 a $1000 computer will exceed the computational capabilities of the entire human species", what does this mean for the human species? Not only do I believe this video is xenophobic, I believe it can instill xenophobia in people toward technology, its advancements and the future.
After watching this video, it made me think of certain articles I have read in class. In Anderson's 2004 "The long tail" he discusses how the universe has shifted going from a one to many model of distribution to a many to many distribution. How with this universal shift all things became possible. Is this video suggesting another universal shift? What form of distribution will we have in 2049 when computers are far surpassing humans? In Hargitai's 2000 article, "Radios lessons for the Internet" he discusses how government regulations are inevitable for the Internet, that because of the issues facing the radio and how the government essentially needed to regulate the radio that they will not make the same mistake with the Internet. So how far will the Internet grow with all these technological advancements? Will the government regulations eventually become a problem and butt heads with the many to many model of distribution. Looking at Dimaggio,et al. 2001 article "Social Implications of the Internet", and how it discusses massification and the Internets impact on culture made me think, how will everything discussed in this video impact culture. How will things like a super computer affect us directly?
Fortunately, this video did not make me feel xenophobic about the future. However, it did make me think a lot about what the future holds for the world. It made me wonder how quickly will we advance technologically, and if all this technology will be better or worse for the future. If in "2008 1 in every 8 couples married met online", then imagine how many married couples will have met online by 2020. If this video is even a little bit true it means that the world will be changing extremely fast right before my eyes and I have a crazy future to look forward to. I recommend that everyone who reads this post watch the video, it is very interesting and if you have your own opinions on it feel free to leave a comment.
Friday, February 20, 2009
The Different Types of Divorce
Of course if all you haven't heard is divorce, divorce, divorce you probably have heard of an annulment. In case you were wondering an annulment like a divorce dissolves a marriage however, an annulment indicates a marriage never happened. Many times in order to get re married in the roman catholic church a divorce is not sufficient, you must have an annulment. Grounds for an annulment can differ but include, fraud or misrepresentation (i.e your spouse is already married). Concealment which would mean that your spouse concealed a drug addiction or a sexually transmitted disease. If your spouse will not or cannot have sexual intercourse with you. Lastly, a misunderstanding, I would imagine in order for the church to grant you an annulment it would have to be a great misunderstanding like a different desire to have children.
A divorce isn't just always about the legal proceedings, many times divorce affects the individuals. This can be called an emotional divorce. An emotional divorce is the emotional separation and the feelings associated with it. The hardest part of a divorce can be letting go of the feelings you have for your partner, some people go through this emotional divorce for years after the legal divorce. To get through an emotional divorce can take more work when there are children involved. "The on-going relationships between your children and both of their parents also complicate the resolution of emotional issues."
People can forget that a divorce is much more complicated than the word. So if you plan on getting a divorce try and deal with your emotions so you don't spend years dealing with the emotions you should have let go of before the divorce. Look into the different types of divorce granted in your state and try to make it as easy as a divorce can get on you and your children. Also if you know someone going through a divorce be supportive, remember its a process not just a legeal one but an emotional one as well.
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